Below is a guest post from Tenille of Feisty, Frugal and Fabulous:
After reading “Making Babies” this past week, it really made me start thinking about whether or not we are ready to add a third child to our family. It doesn’t help that one of my friends just had her third baby girl or that others in my life are pregnant with #3 right now! Someone said that “3 is the new 2″ and I wondered how true that is.
Are you seeing a trend toward 3-child families? Do you think 3 is becoming more common than 2? I know many people who have 2 kids and just “know” they are done having kids. I don’t know how they know but they DO. I don’t know so I guess I’m in Baby Utopia.
It’s odd that I’m even debating the idea, since we had so much trouble getting pregnant with Elijah. In between my two children I had two miscarriages and the entire time I wasn’t on any form of birth control so to say that I have trouble getting pregnant is pretty legitimate.
After I had my daughter (almost 2 years ago now, gasp!) I felt like a horrible person going on birth control (my periods were awful, that was why, obviously not for birth control lol) so now I am thinking of going off and seeing what fate/God/the universe has in store for us.
BUT, the idea of adding a third child is kind of scary. We’ll be outnumbered. Anyone who has three kids of course says it’s wonderful (who would say, “oh it was a bad decision” about a third child in their life, right?) but what’s the real cost? Is there a cost, or is it the best thing to add another child into a loving home to love?
So many things to think about! I’d love to hear your thoughts!
- Tenille
Tenille is a Canadian sahm of 2, with a mad obsession with Tim Hortons coffee (it’s a Canadian thing!) and of course being a fabulous frugal mom.
You can find her wonderful blog at Feisty, Frugal, and Fabulous.
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Kasey,
I was once wondering about having another child. So, I talked to someone that I trusted. He said “the real question is…do you have enough love for another?” About a year later your sister Kari was born.
Love,
Dad
I would say that is very good advice. : )
Tenille, I can say without a doubt going from 2 to 3 was the hardest thing I’ve experience with having babies to date. Our “perfect” family size would have stopped at 2 but life had other plans for us…actually I blame it on the bugs. (long story)
It was until Emma actually came into our lives that I realized how much more perfect and complete she made our family. As much as we love her to death, it’s still not easy. Being outnumbered makes shopping trips, restaurants, anything outside of the house a complete nightmare.
Just ask Kasey, I’m the grouchiest woman in the world tromping through Target on a Saturday afternoon with a cart full of kids.
First, LOL Cat about reminding me of the bugs!
Second, I don’t know, it always seemed to me that going from one to two was tough, but hey what do I know I have only one
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